Keeping Her Attracted To You, Or « How
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The Beginning of the End, Or the End of the Beginning
Once you’ve figured out How to Attract Women, you’re bound to find one that’s particularly interesting to you.
One that you might actually, um, love.
One that you might want to keep around for a bit.
Hey, you might even meet someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Even though I’ve made most of this book about meeting women, I don’t feel that it would be complete without at least a few ideas on how to keep a woman attracted to you for the long haul.
But first of all, here’s my take on why relationships fail:
When you first start dating someone that you really like, the body releases a combination of chemicals that are quite literally intoxicating.
These chemicals cause you to want to be with that person all the time, stay up all night talking to them, and have sex three times a day.
But twelve to eighteen months later, the chemicals change. The intoxicating chemicals are replaced by ‘stability’ chemicals. The ‘stayup-all-night-can’t-be-away-from-her-have-sex-three-times-a-day’ feeling goes away and the ‘lets-settle-down-and-have-two-kids-andbuy-a-minivan’ chemicals take over. Deal with it. (If you want to understand this process better, read ‘The Alchemy of Love and Lust’ by Crenshaw)
So now that you know this, how do you keep this whole thing from turning into an episode of All In The Family?
Well, the short answer is, keep up the fun, interesting, unpredictable behavior. Notice the details. Do thoughtful things.
Here’s something that I’ve learned in life: If you want to get back more than you give, then play the stock market. It’s not gonna happen in relationships. In fact, if you want to get a lot back, you’re probably going to have to give even more.